Being Uncomfortable with Being Uncomfortable

Recently its come to Phil's and my attention that to become comfortable or welcomed into a new environment it requires two things. One, it requires that the environment be a place that fosters community and provides opportunities to get involved. Secondly, it requires an act of movement on our part to get involved. Yet, interesting enough, our consumer-based culture tells us that if we're not happy or if we're not satisfied instantly or need to make an effort then whatever we're doing must not be good. Being uncomfortable in a new environment is something that you have to deal with constantly after becoming an adult. It follows you everywhere. Whether in a new job, making a large purchase, having a family, going to a new class or a new hobby or choosing a new church or a new service area...its always uncomfortable at first.

If we simply go to consume, then we're never going to be satisfied. Its like going to a restaurant for the first time. I may go somewhere new and go out on a limb and try something new. The service is great, the atmosphere is fun. What if I taste what I chose for dinner and don't like it, does that mean that the whole restuarant is bad? Probably not. I just made a poor choice. I can't base my whole opinion on the restaurant by only trying one thing. I need to go back and choose something else. The restaurant experience isn't just about food. Its about the experience and how we interact with the environment.

I can't go somewhere new and expect to make instant best friends. It takes work, it takes getting uncomfortable and making an effort. Sharon at SheWorships says it well in her blog post Putting Yourself Out There . Base your decision or opinion by first asking yourself where your heart is at. Are you going to only consume? Are you passing judgments before you've really given it your best effort? Are you willing to put yourself out there?